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So tonight there was a fight at my dad's house once again... I was taking "too long" in the shower. Then there was yelling. Dad woke up his "girlfriend" by yelling. She got mad and was yelling at me. The first thing I do is yell back. The next thing I do is try to go back to my mom's. My dad got me in my mouth. and that's when I tried to go up to my mom's. I managed to get out of the front door and my dad grabbed onto me. He wouldn't let me go until I said "I was done yelling." After everything started to calm down, the cops showed up. and 30-45 minutes later they are taking my dad to jail. Not to mention it's my 18th birthday! YAY!!! Great way to start your birthday! Am I right?? Happy Birthday to me!!

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19 minutes ago, Non-Binary Person Here said:

So tonight there was a fight at my dad's house once again... I was taking "too long" in the shower. Then there was yelling. Dad woke up his "girlfriend" by yelling. She got mad and was yelling at me. The first thing I do is yell back. The next thing I do is try to go back to my mom's. My dad got me in my mouth. and that's when I tried to go up to my mom's. I managed to get out of the front door and my dad grabbed onto me. He wouldn't let me go until I said "I was done yelling." After everything started to calm down, the cops showed up. and 30-45 minutes later they are taking my dad to jail. Not to mention it's my 18th birthday! YAY!!! Great way to start your birthday! Am I right?? Happy Birthday to me!!

Hey there,

I'm so sorry to hear about all of this. I know about how things have been between you two in the past and was hoping things had gotten a little better. How are you feeling? I can imagine that you're pretty upset by all this. I hope you're as okay as you can be. We are here for you. 

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18 minutes ago, Non-Binary Person Here said:

I'm not doing so great after that...

I can imagine. That is a lot to deal with! Please know that we are here for you!

I'm curious that you've titled your message "I messed up". I just wanted to reassure you that this was in no way your fault. From what you were saying it sounds like you were assaulted and we're never to blame when these things happen. Are you in a safe place now? 

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I’m no way is this your fault! Never blame yourself for someone’s else’s actions. I’m sorry to hear he assaulted you how are you now? How is your mum to make you feel better? Have you spoken to her? Happy birthday! 

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I'm glad to hear you're safe. Have you been able to talk to your mom about it?

It is common to feel guilty and lots of other people who have been though a similar experience will feel the same. Especially if we love the other person . However, as Leila also said - please know that none of this is your fault! You did nothing wrong.  

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18 hours ago, Non-Binary Person Here said:

@Aurora what if he dies???

It's normal to have thoughts like that  I think we all have the tendency to imagine the worst possible outcome, especially if it's to do with someone we love. I can reassure you, that it is very unlikely that something will happen to your Dad as he will still get medical attention while he is in police custody. Has he been charged with anything and is he still in police custody?

How are you feeling about it all today? I can imagine it was tough for you to see your Dad being arrested. I would just like to say again that you did nothing wrong!  I understand that you didn't want any of this to happen but your Dad also needs to take responsibility for his actions and hopefully his arrest will lead to a change in his behaviour towards you (and others). What do you think? 

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1 minute ago, Non-Binary Person Here said:

I'm still trying to recover from it tbh

do you wanna talk more? or do you wanna change the subject

 

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2 minutes ago, Non-Binary Person Here said:

Well on Tuesday I found out that on the 26th or 27th of this month he has another court date. If they push the charges he will go to jail for 9 months...

i'm sorry, it sucks that all that's happening

 

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2 minutes ago, Non-Binary Person Here said:

whats even worse is that my autistic brother's birthday is on the 22nd

i wish this wasn't happening to you guys i'm so sorry🫂

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1 minute ago, Non-Binary Person Here said:

thanks damian

ofc 

i have a shitty dad too so it hate when other fathers are being shitty to their kids 

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