unofficial Posted September 14, 2022 Share Posted September 14, 2022 hey everyone, i am a 15 yr old girl and my friend is going through depression and i always checks upon her and day by day it is getting worse nothign is helping the main reason is her mother her mother alwyas bodyshames her ridicule her an dmany more she mentally tortures her everyday she has been going thoguh a lot sh ehas lost interest in anythign she has also lost her appetite and has been losing weight terrifingly fast and another reason is the people she has liked has also affescted her soo much they were soo toxic to her and made her self steem hit the bottom she sometimes talks abotu it but when we are about to go deep she just drops th e topic and leaves idk wwhat to do and how to help can someone suggest anytign?? pleasee MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emberfrost12 Posted September 14, 2022 Share Posted September 14, 2022 1 hour ago, unofficial said: hey everyone, i am a 15 yr old girl and my friend is going through depression and i always checks upon her and day by day it is getting worse nothign is helping the main reason is her mother her mother alwyas bodyshames her ridicule her an dmany more she mentally tortures her everyday she has been going thoguh a lot sh ehas lost interest in anythign she has also lost her appetite and has been losing weight terrifingly fast and another reason is the people she has liked has also affescted her soo much they were soo toxic to her and made her self steem hit the bottom she sometimes talks abotu it but when we are about to go deep she just drops th e topic and leaves idk wwhat to do and how to help can someone suggest anytign?? pleasee I'm going to tag in @Aurora and @Monsoon so that they can help you. The only advice I can offer is to show your friend that you still like/appreciate them, and that you care and are there for them. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted September 14, 2022 Share Posted September 14, 2022 4 hours ago, unofficial said: hey everyone, i am a 15 yr old girl and my friend is going through depression and i always checks upon her and day by day it is getting worse nothign is helping the main reason is her mother her mother alwyas bodyshames her ridicule her an dmany more she mentally tortures her everyday she has been going thoguh a lot sh ehas lost interest in anythign she has also lost her appetite and has been losing weight terrifingly fast and another reason is the people she has liked has also affescted her soo much they were soo toxic to her and made her self steem hit the bottom she sometimes talks abotu it but when we are about to go deep she just drops th e topic and leaves idk wwhat to do and how to help can someone suggest anytign?? pleasee Hey, Welcome to the Ditch the Label community. I'm one of the digital mentors here and I give advice to those who reach out to us. Thank you for coming to us about your friend; she is so lucky to have a friend like you who is so caring and committed to supporting her. You are clearly a very kind and special person. I'm wondering, can you tell me more about the mental torture? Would you say your friend is safe at the moment? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unofficial Posted September 15, 2022 Author Share Posted September 15, 2022 23 hours ago, Emberfrost12 said: I'm going to tag in @Aurora and @Monsoon so that they can help you. The only advice I can offer is to show your friend that you still like/appreciate them, and that you care and are there for them. i do but its like she just cant see or she just ignores the things i do she only focuses in bad things which makes it extra hard MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted September 15, 2022 Share Posted September 15, 2022 2 hours ago, unofficial said: i do but its like she just cant see or she just ignores the things i do she only focuses in bad things which makes it extra hard Hey, Yeah, it sounds like she's really struggling at the moment, but it's great that she has you to help her through. I'm wondering, what makes you think she cant see or ignores the things you do? Also, one of the best things you can do when someone is struggling is to let them express their feelings so you can listen to and understand their situation more. Sometimes, people just want to share how they are feeling, and that is so helpful in itself. So, a lot of it might just be around being there to listen and understand. When people feel heard after they vent, this can then create space in their head to think about the next steps for change. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unofficial Posted September 20, 2022 Author Share Posted September 20, 2022 On 9/16/2022 at 1:35 AM, Monsoon said: Hey, Yeah, it sounds like she's really struggling at the moment, but it's great that she has you to help her through. I'm wondering, what makes you think she cant see or ignores the things you do? Also, one of the best things you can do when someone is struggling is to let them express their feelings so you can listen to and understand their situation more. Sometimes, people just want to share how they are feeling, and that is so helpful in itself. So, a lot of it might just be around being there to listen and understand. When people feel heard after they vent, this can then create space in their head to think about the next steps for change. What do you think? umm, no matter what i say she says u dont understand or continues to add more things and she acts like no one is there for her and idk i actually have suffered and am still recovering from depression but nobody knows so when she ignores me idk what to do. thank u for ur opinion. i always let her say evrything but it just doenst help her MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted September 20, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted September 20, 2022 27 minutes ago, unofficial said: umm, no matter what i say she says u dont understand or continues to add more things and she acts like no one is there for her and idk i actually have suffered and am still recovering from depression but nobody knows so when she ignores me idk what to do. thank u for ur opinion. i always let her say evrything but it just doenst help her Have you tried saying something like "what's the best way I can help you? I can listen but would like to be able to help if I can" or something similar? What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unofficial Posted October 5, 2022 Author Share Posted October 5, 2022 On 9/21/2022 at 12:14 AM, Blondie said: Have you tried saying something like "what's the best way I can help you? I can listen but would like to be able to help if I can" or something similar? What do you think? yea i did but she said leave it and walked away MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 5, 2022 Share Posted October 5, 2022 41 minutes ago, unofficial said: yea i did but she said leave it and walked away Hey there, That's interesting. Maybe she is communicating that she doesn't want to talk about it and needs space to cope with it in a way. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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