i'm really confused about my sexuality -- i'm 16 and i'm only romantically attracted to boys, but i feel like i might like girls too

[nurnie]

i grew up thinking i was straight, but around 11 yrs old i became questioning. but i'd still tell people i was straight (it didn't feel right though). i only had boy crushes, but sometimes, i'd feel flustered around a girl (but i was lacking those butterflies in my stomach), and sometimes i'd notice how pretty they are, or how well their eyes complimented their hair, and i couldn't stop staring at them. and sometimes, in movies, i'd stare at the girl, not the boy, but i didn't feel romantically attracted to them. but i would kiss a boy and i would kiss a girl. but i'd only date a guy -- i feel attraction unevenly for both genders, but i think attraction is there for both. could i be a heteroromantic bisexual? or bi-curious? or just questioning ? please help <3

[starrysaturn]

Hey, 

I would love to help you figure this out but I'm just as confused as you are! I only started questioning when I turned 17 and since then I have noticed an increasing attraction to Women. I always only thought I would romantically date a man up until pretty recently! Lately, I have entertained the thought of dating a girl and have become comfortable with that thought. This confusion will probably change and maybe become easier as you get older! 

Hope I could help! 

[Blondie]

3 hours ago, nurnie said:

i grew up thinking i was straight, but around 11 yrs old i became questioning. but i'd still tell people i was straight (it didn't feel right though). i only had boy crushes, but sometimes, i'd feel flustered around a girl (but i was lacking those butterflies in my stomach), and sometimes i'd notice how pretty they are, or how well their eyes complimented their hair, and i couldn't stop staring at them. and sometimes, in movies, i'd stare at the girl, not the boy, but i didn't feel romantically attracted to them. but i would kiss a boy and i would kiss a girl. but i'd only date a guy -- i feel attraction unevenly for both genders, but i think attraction is there for both. could i be a heteroromantic bisexual? or bi-curious? or just questioning ? please help <3

Hi there, I’m Blondie, one of the support mentors.

Its completely possible to be bisexual but experience an uneven attraction between guys and girls. A lot of people can find they are quite fluid in their attractions and might be sexually attracted to one gender and only romantically attracted to another.

I think it’s a positive to be open to a relationship based on your attraction to a person - what do you think?

[proudperson72]

This is so relatable. I'm literally going through the exact same thing right now, so it's glad to know I'm not alone XD. My advice is that if you have a suspicion that you're bi, you probably are. Go with your instincts, and remember that what "bisexual" means to me might not be what "bisexual" means to you.