Christopher (Chris) Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 Heyy everyone, I'm writting this so I can gather some opinions since I don't have anyone near me who's a part of LGBTQ+ community or an ally, so if you could answer this it would be great. I have been thinking for a while about my gender identity, and one that has come to my mind is that I might identify as a boy (still not sure tho) but I feel like I'm a bit too feminine for it, or maybe I'm just not used to it. I really don't like to hang out with boys, I actually never even met boys that are actually nice so maybe that's the problem. I'm also really lazy when it comes to sports, with exceptions (I would love to do fencing but I can't). I wouldn't say my style is just more masculine cuz I do like skirts and dresses but I do prefer a suit or pants. So what do you guys think, am I too feminine to actually be a boy or are the stereotypes getting inside my head??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 SO WHAT IF YOURE FEM ME TOO! Shrug yourself away from the stereotypes and just be you! Dont worry about what society thinks a guy should or shouldn't be. The idea that boys cant wear skirts and dresses is absurd I happen to know a few guys who have worn skirts and look hella fine. Maybe not in a OMG I fancy em way but in a complimentary way. You Be You. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christopher (Chris) Posted May 3, 2022 Author Share Posted May 3, 2022 2 minutes ago, Thisboiistrans said: SO WHAT IF YOURE FEM ME TOO! Shrug yourself away from the stereotypes and just be you! Dont worry about what society thinks a guy should or shouldn't be. The idea that boys cant wear skirts and dresses is absurd I happen to know a few guys who have worn skirts and look hella fine. Maybe not in a OMG I fancy em way but in a complimentary way. You Be You. Thank uu so much, been wanting to hear (read) that for a long time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 Hey no problem Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 I'm here for you! Are your pronouns are she her or do you go by any others Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christopher (Chris) Posted May 3, 2022 Author Share Posted May 3, 2022 1 minute ago, Thisboiistrans said: I'm here for you! Are your pronouns are she her or do you go by any others I think I'm gonna start using he/him too to start somewhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 Hope I'm not intruding there :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 Hey that's great! Are you out to any family members or close friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christopher (Chris) Posted May 3, 2022 Author Share Posted May 3, 2022 Just now, Thisboiistrans said: Hope I'm not intruding there :) Not at all, you are actually helping me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christopher (Chris) Posted May 3, 2022 Author Share Posted May 3, 2022 Just now, Thisboiistrans said: Hey that's great! Are you out to any family members or close friends Nope, not yert. I want to be sure myself and then have the courage to tell other people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 That's how I started I told my mum the first time and it didn't work out (still hasnt) My friends know though so that's great Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christopher (Chris) Posted May 3, 2022 Author Share Posted May 3, 2022 1 minute ago, Thisboiistrans said: That's how I started I told my mum the first time and it didn't work out (still hasnt) My friends know though so that's great I also think my mom won't like it at first but I hope with time she accepts it, and I do think my friends would be fine with it they don't seem like the type to judge except for my classmates, it's full of boys but the bad type so I hope when I go to university I meet some nicer boys too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 Yeah that should be fine Glad you updated your pronouns tho. That's a step in the right direction. How old were you,may I ask, when you first found out you were this way? For insight it was last year for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christopher (Chris) Posted May 3, 2022 Author Share Posted May 3, 2022 Just now, Thisboiistrans said: Yeah that should be fine Glad you updated your pronouns tho. That's a step in the right direction. How old were you,may I ask, when you first found out you were this way? For insight it was last year for me. I found out I was bisexual already some time ago, but never though I would be trans cuz I don't really have body dysphoria, at least I think, but I always prefered being a boy, like when I was a kid I would always play as a boy so maybe I already knew but didn't realize it, I only started to really think about it last year too so I was 16 kinda. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 Omg are you my twin?! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 I relate to you on such a level! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christopher (Chris) Posted May 3, 2022 Author Share Posted May 3, 2022 Just now, Thisboiistrans said: I relate to you on such a level! Maybe we are twins who knows I never got the chance to talk to someone that felt the same way I do, and now I finally found someone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 That's great I hope I'm helping 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christopher (Chris) Posted May 3, 2022 Author Share Posted May 3, 2022 1 minute ago, Thisboiistrans said: That's great I hope I'm helping You are helping so much, I wish I found this website sooner Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 I can sing really low and I like it! Just thought I should put that out there Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 Oh glad I can be of assistance 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 Sorry of help I mean Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal_The_Oyster Posted May 3, 2022 Share Posted May 3, 2022 Sorry again gotta go See ya around mah dude! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christopher (Chris) Posted May 3, 2022 Author Share Posted May 3, 2022 1 hour ago, Thisboiistrans said: I can sing really low and I like it! Just thought I should put that out there I wish my voice was low but it's a bit high pitched Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dywwik Posted May 4, 2022 Share Posted May 4, 2022 5 hours ago, JoanaORChris said: I found out I was bisexual already some time ago, but never though I would be trans cuz I don't really have body dysphoria, at least I think, but I always prefered being a boy, like when I was a kid I would always play as a boy so maybe I already knew but didn't realize it, I only started to really think about it last year too so I was 16 kinda. "You don't need dysphoria to be trans. You only need Euphoria when you are in the proper genre expression" I don't know i'm quoting, but I hear this quote a lot! also, "If you aren't sure if you are faking it, you aren't. People who fake it, know they are faking it." I'll say OneTopi on youtube said it, because he does say it often! (He's a the greatest Ally I see on youtube!) 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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