Jazbo32 Posted January 11, 2022 Share Posted January 11, 2022 I am wanting to come out to my parents as pansexual, genderfluid and polyamorous but they are very religious and I am afraid they will physically/verbally abuse me. Any advice? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted January 12, 2022 Share Posted January 12, 2022 11 hours ago, Jazbo32 said: I am wanting to come out to my parents as pansexual, genderfluid and polyamorous but they are very religious and I am afraid they will physically/verbally abuse me. Any advice? Hey @Jazbo32 Welcome to our community :) I'm sorry to hear that you're afraid your parents will physically/verbally abuse you for coming out. I'm wondering, can you tell me a little bit more about why you think that could happen? My top advice for coming out is to always make sure it's safe to do so, and if it's not, then it's best to wait until you can do it safely, such as telling them when you have moved out and when you're of an age where you can support yourself. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara_Kito221 Posted January 12, 2022 Share Posted January 12, 2022 (edited) This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Abuse Click this notice to reveal the content. Are they homophobic? Have they ever said anything to mock the LGBTQIA+ community or said any negative about them? Do they have any friends in that are in the community? A friend of theirs you can tell first so that they can give you advice on how they coming out or how to come out to your parents. How old are you? If they don't accept you after you come out there is a possibility that they can kick you out, if you are not old enough live on your own or you don't have anywhere else to go you can go like a friends house that is near, it may not be the best idea. If they do end up physically or verbally abusing you, you need to contact 911/000. Remember to record conversations, take photos of scaring/bruises if possible as evidence of abuse. If you get your devices taken away from you tell a teacher and they can contact the police for you can't. That's all the advice I have I hope this helps. Edited January 12, 2022 by Sara_Kito221 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazbo32 Posted January 12, 2022 Author Share Posted January 12, 2022 They have mocked the LGBTQIA+ community multiple times. They have no friends in the community. I am 16. Thanks for the advice MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted January 14, 2022 Share Posted January 14, 2022 On 1/12/2022 at 9:59 PM, Jazbo32 said: They have mocked the LGBTQIA+ community multiple times. They have no friends in the community. I am 16. Thanks for the advice Hey there, Ah, okay, thanks for telling me more. What kind of things have they said? Also, do you think that they would put you in danger if you came out to them? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazbo32 Posted January 14, 2022 Author Share Posted January 14, 2022 They have just said that genderfluidity is not real and they have just made a lot of bad jokes about the LGBTQ+ community MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted January 15, 2022 Share Posted January 15, 2022 Hey @Jazbo32 I'm sorry to hear they said that about gender fluidity and made jokes about the LGBTQ+ community. How did it make you feel when they said that? With this in mind, how do you think they might react to your news? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazbo32 Posted January 15, 2022 Author Share Posted January 15, 2022 I just felt very invalid and I am afraid they will abuse or kick me out if I tell them about my gender identity or sexual orientation MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted January 16, 2022 Share Posted January 16, 2022 13 hours ago, Jazbo32 said: I just felt very invalid and I am afraid they will abuse or kick me out if I tell them about my gender identity or sexual orientation Hello, Thanks for telling me that. I'm wondering, has there ever been any abuse before? I just thought I'd ask because of how you're scared they may abuse you for coming out. If there has, just remember that this is a safe space and I'm here to support you. It can be scary telling others, but sharing what's going on can help you get the support you might need. I hope to hear from you soon. Take care. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazbo32 Posted January 16, 2022 Author Share Posted January 16, 2022 There has not been any abuse so far but I am always worried they will start abusing me at some point MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted January 16, 2022 Share Posted January 16, 2022 Hey there, I'm glad to hear that there hasn't been any abuse, and I'm wondering if you can tell me a little bit more about that worry that they will start abusing you at some point. Where do you think that comes from? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazbo32 Posted January 17, 2022 Author Share Posted January 17, 2022 I have just heard stories about some religious parents abusing their LGBTQ+ kids and I am worried something like that will happen to me MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted January 17, 2022 Share Posted January 17, 2022 6 hours ago, Jazbo32 said: I have just heard stories about some religious parents abusing their LGBTQ+ kids and I am worried something like that will happen to me Hey there, I'm wondering, although they've made bad jokes and said gender fluidity is not real, do you think they could change their mind once you come out? Parents have a lot of love for their children which means that when their child comes out, because of the conflict between the love they have for their child and their views on LGBTQ+ identities, they often come face-to-face with their views which can lead to them becoming more open-minded and accepting. Although it can take a while to work through challenging views, it's important to consider the power that unconditional love has in helping parents to learn more. What do you think? Also, with the stories you've heard about religious parents abusing their LGBTQ+ kids, has this happened to people you know? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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