Music_Geek_23 Posted September 24, 2021 Share Posted September 24, 2021 This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Sex Click this notice to reveal the content. So, hey people. im a girl. im 14 and im bi. i dont really know how to tell my parents because they dont support. but i have a boyfriend, who my parents dont know im dating but they know we are friends but he acted like he was mad at me. he didnt talk to me at all. but this week, he was all fine. but i think he's cheating on me again, but i really really like him. when we first dated, he asked me if i would have sex with him and i said after my stomach surgery healed, yeah. but then he went and told my bestfriend, who he was cheating on me with, that i was too clingy. what should i do? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted September 25, 2021 Share Posted September 25, 2021 Hey there, Thank you for telling me about how things are with your boyfriend at the moment. I’m sorry to hear that he cheated on you - how are you feeling about that at the moment? I wanted to check in because it can be hard to move on from something like that, and it can really leave a lasting impact. I hope you’re as okay as you can be. From what you’ve said, it sounds like he’s treating you pretty poorly at the moment. Have you tried speaking to him about what’s going on? Also, I saw that you mentioned having sex with him when your surgery has healed, but I just want to check, do you actually want to? It’s completely okay to say no if you aren’t ready. Speak soon. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted September 25, 2021 Author Share Posted September 25, 2021 Monsoon dude, I haven't tried speaking with him because I'm scared of him getting mad and breaking up with me. And as for the sex situation, yeah. I think I'm ready and I'm kind of curious about everything right now though. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted September 26, 2021 Share Posted September 26, 2021 Hey @Music_Geek_23 Yeah, I totally get your fear. It sounds like you really like him. Can I ask, how come you think he might be cheating on you again? What has changed? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted September 26, 2021 Author Share Posted September 26, 2021 Hey @Monsoon My friend Allison, the person he cheated on me with the first time, said that he told her that she is cute and wants to get back with her but she said no cuz she has a boyfriend. Then he told her that they are getting back together in a week. And I do really like him. Nothing has changed except the first time we dated he said he loved me and we hugged and walked home together, but nw he doesn't say he loves me and we don't hug anymore and i always have to walk home alone cuz he is always walking home with his friends or another girl. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted September 27, 2021 Author Share Posted September 27, 2021 Today, I told my boyfriend that i was gonna kiss him when we walked home together. And he immediately said, "I can walk with you today." Is it bad that he said that right after I told him I would kiss him for the first time? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted September 27, 2021 Share Posted September 27, 2021 3 hours ago, Music_Geek_23 said: Today, I told my boyfriend that i was gonna kiss him when we walked home together. And he immediately said, "I can walk with you today." Is it bad that he said that right after I told him I would kiss him for the first time? Hey @Music_Geek_23 How are you feeling today? I hope you're as okay as you can be, but it's okay to open up when you're not feeling great. Just to make sure that I understand, your boyfriend told her that they are getting back together in a week? I'm sorry to hear that he did this with your friend as well. I can imagine that this really hurt your feelings, having your trust broken by both of them. It's interesting that you asked if it's bad that he said he would walk with you after said you would kiss him for the first time. I'm wondering, what do you think it means that he did that? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted September 27, 2021 Author Share Posted September 27, 2021 @Monsoon im felling ok i guess. i think he just wants to get some action. im thinking about breaking up with him, even though i like him a lot. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted September 28, 2021 Share Posted September 28, 2021 Hey, Yeah, from what you've said, I also thought the same. You deserve someone who treats you with respect and is with you for you, not just to get some action. How are you feeling about it today? Are you still thinking of breaking up with him? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted September 28, 2021 Author Share Posted September 28, 2021 Yeah. I'm still thinking about braking up with him. I do have a question though. Yesterday he asked to see a pic of me, so I sent him a pic of me stretching, then he just said thanks. Do you have any idea why he would have asked for the picture? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted September 29, 2021 Author Share Posted September 29, 2021 My boyfriend broke up with me. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted September 29, 2021 Share Posted September 29, 2021 Hey @Music_Geek_23 I'm really sorry to hear that he has broken up with you. How are you feeling? I just want you to know that we are here if you want to talk about it. I hope you're doing as okay as you can be. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted September 29, 2021 Author Share Posted September 29, 2021 I'm not paying attention to him anymore. i'm just ignoring him. But it's really hard to ignore someone when that someone sits right behind you in every class you have. And it's hard to ignore him when my friend sits next to me in soical studies and the are good friends and so he sits at the end of his table so that he can lean over us and talk to our friend but he reads my emails with my friends. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted September 29, 2021 Share Posted September 29, 2021 Hey, Yeah, I totally get what you're saying about how it's hard to ignore someone who is so physically close to you. How are you feeling after the breakup? Also, how is he able to read your emails? Does he have your password? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted September 29, 2021 Author Share Posted September 29, 2021 He reads over my shoulder. No one has my password. And I feel fine about the break up. He doesn't seem to care about it though. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted September 30, 2021 Share Posted September 30, 2021 Hey, I'm glad to hear that you feel fine. From all the things you said, it sounded like he wasn't treating you very well and that he was maybe just wanting sex. It seems like you wanted more from the relationship, and that you were maybe on different pages. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted September 30, 2021 Author Share Posted September 30, 2021 Yeah. Definetly on different pages. I wanted more than just sex, but he didn't. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 1, 2021 Share Posted October 1, 2021 Hey, Yeah, and I'm glad that you realised that before going forward and having sex with him, as I imagine that you may have felt used if you found out afterwards. How are you doing today? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted October 1, 2021 Author Share Posted October 1, 2021 Im fine. But i kind of like him again. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 2, 2021 Share Posted October 2, 2021 Hey, I'm glad to hear that you're fine. It's interesting that you kind of like him again even after what's happened. If it's not too private, can I ask, what kind of feelings are you having towards him? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted October 2, 2021 Author Share Posted October 2, 2021 I want to get back with him. I just want someone who will hold me when I'm sad or kiss me when I want to be kissed. And he did those both one time, and I want that again. I miss being with him. I miss him. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 3, 2021 Share Posted October 3, 2021 Hey, I totally get all of those feelings. It's completely normal to want someone back when they break up with you, but I'm wondering, how do you think you might feel in a few months time once you've had some time to process these feelings? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted October 3, 2021 Author Share Posted October 3, 2021 I bet in a few months, I will still feel the same way. Him and I were friends for 2 years before we started dating. I liked him a lot during those two years and now I like him even more. I bet in a few months I will like him more than I like him now, if that's possible. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 4, 2021 Share Posted October 4, 2021 Hey there, How are you today? I know it might seem like it now, but it takes time for these feelings to fade. I know you still like him at the moment, but once some time has passed, you might see it differently and think that it happened for a reason. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Music_Geek_23 Posted October 4, 2021 Author Share Posted October 4, 2021 I'm fine today. And I don't think my feelings for him will fade. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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