A close friend began acting distant, if not resentful, towards me, a few months ago. An insult, eye rolls, the silent treatment ensued, and I kept my distance for a few weeks for things to mellow. Just as we begin to act somewhat normal again—texting, joking—she asks for my help: she needs an invitation embedded into an email (aka, composing an email, and dragging the image into the body). The invitation was for a party I AM NOT invited to, that she is hosting! She profusely thanked me for my help (though I’m sure anyone else with basic computer skills could have assisted with the task, like her husband!), and didn’t say another word.
It’s too psychopathic for me to understand intentionally hurting someone—especially a FRIEND—so maliciously.
I did not give her any reaction, because I believe she was provoking, but she does know I’m mad as hell based on my ignoring her (unlike me) & body language a few days later. She cowered away.
Is a “friend” like her even deserving of my piece of mind? Or a discussion? It feels so toxic!
So for my part the lie that I appreciated the most and found it the funniest one is that of the guy who pretends to drink a detox and healty juice while he finds it just not good the worst is that he adds a #tastesbetterthanitlooks in his insta post. I find that extremely hypocritical in addition he throws the juice in the trash.
I am (likely, waiting for a formal diagnosis) on a AS spectrum. I do not do well in large groups, or more likely in group where I need to follow multiple conversations at once and have to keep an eye on everyone's body language, my own body language and try to get out of way of too much sensory overload. These are often not social gatherings I would choose to go to but more of a work events, which are not mandatory but ARE mandatory.
This unfortunately results in me getting home completely drained and likely to get into mental spiral leading me to anxiety (over-thinking and over-analysing everything I said and done and how apparently everyone hates me now) and eventually to me revealing this pent-up frustration / fear / energy by self-harming.
Would anyone have a tip for a) while with people and how to keep my battery to be drained as fast, b) hacks for when you feel incoming anxiety attack or c) alternatives for self-harming, which I might try (tried few of the general ones sch as ice, creating, using a red marker, but none really did it and I ended up where I started).