mars the candy bar Posted June 12, 2021 Share Posted June 12, 2021 This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Self-Harm Click this notice to reveal the content. Over the past few months, i wasn't feeling like myself. I've always identified as a female, because my parents wanted me to. When i was younger, i always wanted to be a boy or something, but my parents kept distracting me from that thought, which made me feel neglected of my feelings on who i am. I don't hate my parents, i love them to death... but let me be honest.... they are the most homophobic, transphobic, literally-anything -to-do-with-the- LGBTQ+-community-phobic. Back to what i was saying, i haven't felt like myself for a while. I've given up.Β I started cutting myself, and did things people shouldn't do.Β I figured out a while ago, that just being a girl wasn't enough for me. I liked being whatever gender i liked, whenever i wanted to be that gender.Β So i did my research, and figured out that i am genderfluid.Β The past few weeks i've been crying my eyes out, because i'm a christian...and changing your gender is a sin....being gay (i'm Pan), is a sin. I haven't came out to anyone, until now on this post. I don't want anyone feeling bad for me. I just really want someone to talk to about my feelings, without them automatically judging me for being who i am.Β Thank you for your time. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nimoa Posted June 12, 2021 Share Posted June 12, 2021 I know that being yourself and your sexuality can be hard in religions but that doesn't change who you are tell your parents (when you're ready) and please don't care about what people think or say about live your life the way you want and do what makes you happy 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 13, 2021 Share Posted June 13, 2021 Hello @Bee_Is_Yes Thank you for sharing more of your story with us. I rememberΒ your other post where you told us about being pansexual. I am grateful that you have come out to us about your gender identity.Β How did it feel telling us? Youβre doing a really good thingΒ by speaking to other people about how you feel. I just want you to know that this is a completely non-judgemental space and you can talk to us about anything. You can share absolutely anything about how youβre feeling too. Iβm sorry to hear that you have been cutting yourself. I know that people do this for many reasons, some of which include helping to cope with challenging feelings like stress and anxiety.Β giving a sense of control over a difficult situation, and hurting yourself because you feel like you deserve it. Do you have an idea why youβve been cutting yourself? Also, would you like to have a look at our support guide on safe alternatives to self harm? You could choose a few to do instead of cutting and let me know how it goes:Β https://www.ditchthelabel.org/15-safer-alternatives-to-self-harm/ Also, can I ask, when you say youβve done things you shouldnβt have, would you like to tell us about that? Itβs okay if you donβt. Itβs completely up to you what you choose to share with us. I hope to hear back from you soon. Take care. 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mars the candy bar Posted June 14, 2021 Author Share Posted June 14, 2021 This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Suicide Click this notice to reveal the content. It's quite alright. And thanks. I got so depressed that i tried killing myself. Thankfully, i realized that there's more to life, and that i have great friends.Β It was kind of embarrassing, to be honest. It took a bit of courage to talk about this, but in the end, i'm glad i did. I'm so thankful for all the wonderful, supportive people on here.Β Β MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 15, 2021 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 15, 2021 Hey @Bee_Is_YesΒ thanks so much for sharing with us - it takes a lot of courage to open up. Just so you know, if you ever get to a point of depressionΒ like that at any time again, you can talk to us (there's also an option to do this confidentially if you prefer) - we're here for youΒ and will support you through. This is a good app to have - it has safety plans to make sure you don't harm yourself andΒ you might find it useful. Β Β Β Β Β 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoonieOwl Posted June 18, 2021 Share Posted June 18, 2021 Hey bee, If you wanna talk to someone I am here to give advice and make cheesy jokes that are so bad it makes them funny! I don't really know what else to say but if you want to talk I will reply as soon as possible 2 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mars the candy bar Posted June 19, 2021 Author Share Posted June 19, 2021 Thank you all so much! :) 1 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormy_Skies Posted July 2, 2021 Share Posted July 2, 2021 On 6/11/2021 at 10:24 PM, Bee_Is_Yes said: Over the past few months, i wasn't feeling like myself. I've always identified as a female, because my parents wanted me to. When i was younger, i always wanted to be a boy or something, but my parents kept distracting me from that thought, which made me feel neglected of my feelings on who i am. I don't hate my parents, i love them to death... but let me be honest.... they are the most homophobic, transphobic, literally-anything -to-do-with-the- LGBTQ+-community-phobic. Back to what i was saying, i haven't felt like myself for a while. I've given up.Β I started cutting myself, and did things people shouldn't do.Β I figured out a while ago, that just being a girl wasn't enough for me. I liked being whatever gender i liked, whenever i wanted to be that gender.Β So i did my research, and figured out that i am genderfluid.Β The past few weeks i've been crying my eyes out, because i'm a christian...and changing your gender is a sin....being gay (i'm Pan), is a sin. I haven't came out to anyone, until now on this post. I don't want anyone feeling bad for me. I just really want someone to talk to about my feelings, without them automatically judging me for being who i am.Β Thank you for your time. Hon, Iβm fluidflux and all I can say is gender is wack. You donβt control it. Itβs just wack. Also you can pm me whenever you need. 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
isxyromavro Posted August 31, 2021 Share Posted August 31, 2021 Congratulations on your discovery, first of all. Like, genuinely. Gender is extremely hard a lot of times cause you don't even know how other people experience gender and if what you go through is normal or not. I genuinely always thought wishing I was a boy was just something every girl did for the longest time. So I'm happy for you for being able to figure it out so quickly. My parents are very phobic, too, you aren't alone. They pulled me out of the closet when I was 14 only to tell me I was too young to know my sexuality. They've said horrible things about the non-binary community with all three of their kids in the room, they've said things about the trans community that just isn't true at all, too. If I came out to them as trans, they'd probably try to convince me that I'm just a tomboy or a butch lesbianβand I resent them for the way they are when it comes to my identity. Don't let your parents try to convince you things like that. Don't let them try to manipulate who you are. You aren't them and shouldn't be them, and you shouldn't let them tell you who you are. I'm really new here, but I hope you're doing well. My partner has had the worst problems with cutting, I know that can get really really horrible for some people, please stay strong and take care of yourself. I'd totally be up to chat if you ever feel like it or need to talk. 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SSARAS Posted September 4, 2021 Share Posted September 4, 2021 over the last few months, iβve been very confused with my sexuality i am bicurious & lately itβs been a struggle to know if i am or not, iβve been having these emotions & i just wish i could understand myself if that makes sense. i feel like itβs something i am excited but also nervous about because the people iβm surrounded by.Β MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted September 26, 2021 Share Posted September 26, 2021 On 6/19/2021 at 7:12 PM, Jamesssss said: Thank you all so much! Hey, I just wanted to check in and see how you're doing?Β MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted September 26, 2021 Share Posted September 26, 2021 On 9/4/2021 at 7:13 AM, SSARAS said: over the last few months, iβve been very confused with my sexuality i am bicurious & lately itβs been a struggle to know if i am or not, iβve been having these emotions & i just wish i could understand myself if that makes sense. i feel like itβs something i am excited but also nervous about because the people iβm surrounded by.Β Hey @SSARAS How are you doing? It sounds like you're going through a confusing period at the moment, and I just wanted to check in and see how you're feeling now. When you say you're nervous because of the people you're surrounded by, I'm wondering, can you tell me a little bit more about this, please? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatherineC Posted October 11, 2021 Share Posted October 11, 2021 This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Self-Harm Click this notice to reveal the content. On 6/12/2021 at 1:24 AM, Jamesssss said: Over the past few months, i wasn't feeling like myself. I've always identified as a female, because my parents wanted me to. When i was younger, i always wanted to be a boy or something, but my parents kept distracting me from that thought, which made me feel neglected of my feelings on who i am. I don't hate my parents, i love them to death... but let me be honest.... they are the most homophobic, transphobic, literally-anything -to-do-with-the- LGBTQ+-community-phobic. Back to what i was saying, i haven't felt like myself for a while. I've given up.Β I started cutting myself, and did things people shouldn't do.Β I figured out a while ago, that just being a girl wasn't enough for me. I liked being whatever gender i liked, whenever i wanted to be that gender.Β So i did my research, and figured out that i am genderfluid.Β The past few weeks i've been crying my eyes out, because i'm a christian...and changing your gender is a sin....being gay (i'm Pan), is a sin. I haven't came out to anyone, until now on this post. I don't want anyone feeling bad for me. I just really want someone to talk to about my feelings, without them automatically judging me for being who i am.Β Thank you for your time. I completely get what you're saying about religion and sin but i dont think about it that way I dont know yet but i think im probably bi or pan and i live in the south with some family members who are quite homophobic and even before i thought i was gay i would just get so angry because here are these people claiming to love our God and yet they are so hateful toward people simply because they aren't like them. And it's horrible how they pick and choose which groups are 'acceptable' or not like, who says LGBTQ people are any different than religions who don't accept our beliefs. The Bible tells us to love each other as we would love ourselves and its horrid that simply because we love someone else we can't be a christian. I know that i believe very strongly in God and I know he is our Savior and I don't see how me loving a girl is going to change that. I don't think that it's a sin to be who you are because according to the Bible we are fearfully and wonderfully made and we are all made in the image of God and if I can't date girls then that is destroying a piece of one of God's creations. I say that to say, James, be whoever you want, girl, boy, in-between, and know that our God will always love you and you can love whoever you want . Dang that got long and meaningful sorry yall lol~ MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emberfrost12 Posted October 16, 2021 Share Posted October 16, 2021 I don't think god would create a brand of human to send to hell. If he didn't like lgbtq+ people, he would've never created us in the first place, or would have just removed us entirely, and as far as im aware, we arent being wiped f the face of the planet rn. 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 17, 2021 Share Posted October 17, 2021 This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Self-Harm Click this notice to reveal the content. On 10/11/2021 at 3:41 AM, KatherineC said: I completely get what you're saying about religion and sin but i dont think about it that way I dont know yet but i think im probably bi or pan and i live in the south with some family members who are quite homophobic and even before i thought i was gay i would just get so angry because here are these people claiming to love our God and yet they are so hateful toward people simply because they aren't like them. And it's horrible how they pick and choose which groups are 'acceptable' or not like, who says LGBTQ people are any different than religions who don't accept our beliefs. The Bible tells us to love each other as we would love ourselves and its horrid that simply because we love someone else we can't be a christian. I know that i believe very strongly in God and I know he is our Savior and I don't see how me loving a girl is going to change that. I don't think that it's a sin to be who you are because according to the Bible we are fearfully and wonderfully made and we are all made in the image of God and if I can't date girls then that is destroying a piece of one of God's creations. I say that to say, James, be whoever you want, girl, boy, in-between, and know that our God will always love you and you can love whoever you want . Dang that got long and meaningful sorry yall lol~ Such great advice MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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