Allayne Posted June 6, 2021 Share Posted June 6, 2021 hi im 14 and feel like everyone is so much prettier than me and i would rather be anyoune else. Everyone at my school is so pretty and then there's me i hate to sound like this but i just need help with my self-esteem MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 6, 2021 Share Posted June 6, 2021 Hey @Allayne Welcome to our community I'm one of the digital mentors and I give advice to our members who ask us for advice. I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling this way about your appearance atm. Can I ask, how long have you been feeling like this for? Do you think that something in particular caused this to happen? When we find a reason why, having that understanding can often help us to move forward. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allayne Posted June 7, 2021 Author Share Posted June 7, 2021 its been like this for like the past 4 days and it started when i saw like everyone around me and felt like they were prettier and i also feel like everyone loves everyone but me they just say it not to be rude MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 7, 2021 Share Posted June 7, 2021 Hey there, Ah, so it's pretty recent then? It sounds like this is a really strong feeling for you atm. Do you think as time goes on, it will pass in that these feelings won't be as intense? I wonder, what makes you think that everyone loves everyone else apart form you? Has something happened specifically to make you think that? I'm asking because we can often tell ourselves negative things that aren't true, but we just become so caught up in it that we forget to question it. Therefore, by asking someone to think about experiences that made them think that way, they often realise that they have no reason to believe the negative thought. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allayne Posted June 7, 2021 Author Share Posted June 7, 2021 yes i do think they will pass and what you said is true now that i look back its more like self doubt MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 8, 2021 Share Posted June 8, 2021 Ahh, okay. I'm glad to hear that you think it will pass Yeah, I completely get the whole self-doubt thing. We tell ourselves all sorts of harmful things about ourself. My motto is to switch that voice inside your head to the voice you use to support and uplift your fiends and other people you care about. Care for yourself the way you care for others. What do you think ? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allayne Posted June 8, 2021 Author Share Posted June 8, 2021 i think ill try to live by your motto but im starting to feel better about my self and i wrote a list of the things i like about my self that also helped MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 9, 2021 Share Posted June 9, 2021 Ah, great :). It's a good motto. Would you like to share what was on the list that you wrote? Telling others what we like about ourself can be really weird at first, usually because most of us don't like complimenting ourself, but the more you do it, the more normal it becomes. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allayne Posted June 9, 2021 Author Share Posted June 9, 2021 ok i like my hair, smile, lips, body MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 10, 2021 Share Posted June 10, 2021 Hey, Thanks for sharing this. How did it feel talking about your appearance positively? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allayne Posted June 10, 2021 Author Share Posted June 10, 2021 it felt great to focus on the good instead of the bad MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 11, 2021 Share Posted June 11, 2021 That's great :). Keep doing this because it will make you think more and more positively about your appearance. Try to remember the list you make every time you have a negative thought about your appearance. It will really help. How are you today? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WaterfallDaisy Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 That tip has really helped me @Allayne, focusing on what I like about myself has really boosted my self-esteem and made me see myself in a different way. Thanks for sharing your experience 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted July 7, 2021 Share Posted July 7, 2021 On 7/6/2021 at 5:03 PM, WaterfallDaisy said: That tip has really helped me @Allayne, focusing on what I like about myself has really boosted my self-esteem and made me see myself in a different way. Thanks for sharing your experience Love this! Think of three/four things you like about yourself and every time you have a bad thought about yourself, replace it with some you like. It takes time to get used to, but you can change your whole perspective to be more positive MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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