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    hey i go by ly / lyra on social media

    i'm bisexual (i think) but only out online

    i love reading and playing with my cat

    im 13 and pronouns are she / her
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  1. Thanks. I’ve sorted things out with my friend who was going to tell the school, we had a really big falling out after I told the other friends, but we’re good with each other and I explained to her why it wouldn’t really be a great idea to tell the school. they don’t really badly harm themselves that regularly, which is obviously bad but better than it being a regular thing, I was talking to them and they say it’s more when they feel particularly stressed etc, so understandably it increased when my friend was threatening to tell the school. I think that they all actually help each other to be honest. Each of them tries to stop the others, and even though they all do it on their own, I think that this definitely helps them cope with everything. in terms of telling their parents, I think that unless it gets really bad it would probably be better to persuade my friends to tell them themselves rather than be told on, if that makes sense. I wouldn’t want anything to happen to them, but I feel like they’d also have a much better relationship with their family if it were them who were telling them rather than me. (sorry if this is badly explained) Thanks for all the help.
  2. This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Self-Harm, Suicide
  3. hey, sorry i havent been online in a while. a couple of days ago I came out to another of my friends, and signed up to my school's lgbt society! i ended up getting a pride badge, and i'm not really hiding my sexuality anymore- if someone notices, then fine by me. there are still a few friends who i havent come out to yet because i'm not sure how they'll react, but i think that i'll tell them soon, as well as most of my family. thanks so much for all the help here xx
  4. Yeah sure. A lot of them had to do with pride flags and colours (which worked for all my friends who know about those), for example I often put in my bio for socials, also just generally casually bringing stuff up about lgbtq+ in conversation. If I’m talking with my friends about crushes and stuff, i generally won’t specify gender etc. I was also thinking of getting a pride pin or something similar. Hope this helps people! (btw if the emojis don’t show up on some devices they’re hearts in bi pride colours)
  5. I think I’ll probably come out to a few more of my friends, maybe get a pride pin or something. I’ve been dropping a few hints, and that’s really helped me with coming out to people because often it means that they already sort of know, and I find it takes some of the pressure off. For example, my home screen is a subtle bi flag, which my best friend noticed (among other things) so it was very easy to come out to her.
  6. That sounds great, thank you so much for all the help. I really feel a lot better now I’ve told some people, I guess because I don’t have to be hiding a bit part of me from them anymore.
  7. hey, thanks so much for the reply. i've only really come out to people who i thought would be fine with it (my mum and a few friends) and they were all really accepting. one of my friends is also gay, so i think that it was a lot easier to talk to her about it. i think that demisexual describes my attraction to guys really well, although im not sure if im the same way with other girls- i don't seem to feel like i need to know the person well to have a crush on them, but i do for guys. is that a thing?
  8. hey, im back! i came out to a few friends and family, but i was wondering if i could have some help with labelling? i definitely feel attracted to both girls and guys, but i don't find guys attractive unless i already know them/ am friends with them. basically, i just dont find guys hot, but i do still develop crushes on guys who ive known for a while. a couple of my straight friends (who im out to as bi) keep asking me why dont think x boy is hot and thinking that im not actually bisexual im just gay but not ready to come to terms with it, and i have to explain to them that i do feel attraction towards men, just not because they are 'hot'. i was just wondering if there was a more specific label i could use? im tired of everyone just disregarding my sexuality just because im not your typical 50/50 bisexual. sorry if thats hard to understand im not really great with explaining
  9. hey, sorry ive been offline for ages, thanks so much! i think i just keep making excuses for myself, as i said abt the statistics in the original post, i just feel like it is unlikely that i would be queer and therefore i keep trying to convince myself that i am not. tbh, the label bisexual just kinda feels right, and i do think that it applies to me, so i've started coming out online and stuff, and i think i might also tell my best friend (shes also questioning and ik she wont judge me). thanks so much for the help, its really nice to know that im not the only one feeling like this. xx
  10. So, I’ve been questioning my sexuality for quite a long time, but whenever I think that I’ve finally figured myself out I just keep going back on myself, and I’m honestly not sure what to think any more. when I look at the statistics, they say that the odds of being lgbt are low. And I know that these statistics are in no way accurate, because that data just isn’t available and can totally depend on other circumstances, but they still make me think that I’m probably not really lgbt, and I’m just trying to get myself to think that I am. so far, I’ve been out with one boy, who I was already close friends with, and at the time I think that I was attracted to him. But looking back on it, I can’t tell if I really was romantically attracted to him, or if our relationship was totally platonic. We did kiss a couple of times, but it was never like making out or anything. I’ve also had numerous crushes on other girls, in particular one on my best friend which stuck around for ages. I often found myself wanting to kiss her etc. But again, the only girls who I’ve ever thought were hot or was attracted to are ones who I already know, again making me think that I might just be very close with them and not actually like them in that way. anyway, because almost everyone who I’ve ever felt attracted to has been someone who I already know, I keep second guessing whether my attraction is valid or not. Rn, i guess I think of myself as being bi (possibly lesbian leaning if that’s a thing?) but I still can’t even figure out my attractions to any gender. in terms of context I’m a 13 y/o female sorry about the long post, but thanks for reading I will really appreciate any help xx
  11. That’s amazing! If u don’t mind me asking, how long do you think you’ve known that ur bi before coming out? It’s totally ok if u don’t want to answer I’m just a bit confused myself
  12. @Monsoon @Blondie just wondering, is what I said actually a thing? Like, having different attractions to guys and girls. I’m still pretty new to this, and honestly I don’t know what to think about it.
  13. Thanks, in that case I think that I am probably attracted to girls. And honestly, bi just feels right to me. I think I need to stop waiting until I’m 100% sure, because I’ll never be able to. Anyway, thank you so much, I really appreciate all your help.
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