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    Hey A big welcome to our Support Community. ?
  2. Hey Randomguy, Thank you for your honesty. When we don't let people know how we really are it is much harder to get the help we need so well done on sharing everything. We will do our best to help in every way we can and you are not alone. If it's ok with you I am going to ask a few more questions to get a better picture of whats going on. Have you told anyone else about how your mum treats you, is there anyone close to you that you trust enough to open up to? Being bullied can be incredibly stressful especially on top of everything else you are going through. You are not the problem or to blame in any way. The main reason I say this is because being bullied over a period of time leaves a lot of people feeling very embarrassed or ashamed and blaming themselves. Do they live near you? I am really sorry to hear what happened to your friend, that must have been horrible. Have they opened up about why they don't want to report it? What does your gut think you should do that you haven't? In terms of your diabetes, I completely agree it does suck and people don't realise the impact it can have on a persons life. Do you have any outside support for it? I had a look online and found https://www.diabetes.org.uk/how_we_help/local_support_groups this site that puts people in touch with local support groups. It could make a big difference talking to people who know exactly what you are going through because they are too. One of the worst parts is feeling alone with it and I have learnt that help is always out there but we have to find it. Exactly like you have done here, in joining and getting honest. How often do you find yourself thinking about suicide and do you have a plan at the moment? What I am really asking is do you feel safe today? The Samaritans are amazing and have a 24hr phone line that you can call whenever you need day or night, their contact info is here: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/contact-us Also, there is another organisation called Grassroots and they have an app called Staying Alive which you can download and have on your phone. It is full of really important information all in one place and has strategies for staying safe as well as much much more. Would you be up for getting it and having a look? http://www.prevent-suicide.org.uk/stay_alive_suicide_prevention_mobile_phone_application.html I know that is a lot of questions to be asked in one go and you can answer them, however, feels right for you, I really heard in your post that right now life is very overwhelming and you need some support and we want to help in any way we can. Sending you so much support -Peach311 ?
  3. Hey That sounds like a great plan and brilliant to have found a friend that is going through the same thing so you can be there for each other. Pleased to hear it helped to talk it through. This stuff is not easy and we all deserve support. We are here if you need any advice or to talk something through. -Peach311 ?'?
  4. Hey You are very welcome and really pleased to hear that it helped. Sending positivity your way -Peach311
  5. Hi E2379, I know a lot of people will relate to your post. When it comes to nutrition and an exercise plan. I would suggest seeing a nutritionist to ensure you get the safest and best advice possible for your body. What might work well for one person might be the total opposite for someone else. Which is why seeking out professional help is so important. Have you talked with your parents about your goals, would you be ok asking them about helping you find a nutritionist? This stuff has a big impact on our self-esteem and we have some good blogs covering a lot of different angles. Here are some of my favs. https://www.ditchthelabel.org/feeling-beautiful-guide/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/10-things-you-need-to-know-about-confidence/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/am-i-ugly/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/top-10-tips-of-overcoming-low-self-esteem/ Sending support -Peach311
  6. Awesome news massive well done Rose ?'and thanks for sharing it. You deserve to feel relaxed, safe and happy where you live. Looking back is there anything you wish you had done a bit differently that might help someone who is struggling to live with people who are bullying them too? Sending positivity -Peach311
  7. Hey E2379, Thank you so much for your post and sharing here what has been happening with your friends. What really stood out to me when reading it was how much integrity you have and how you have a strong sense of right and wrong. Both of which are amazing attributes and I'm sorry that you are in this tough position. From what you have said I don't think you have anything to apologise for and I understand you would be doing it to calm things down and like you said to go along with the facade until the end of high school. What does your gut say to do? Is there a clear choice coming through? This kind of predicament is not easy and whatever you decide I have no doubt it will be the right one. One thing that I find helps is to imagine a friend is coming to me with exactly the same situation and imagine what I would say to them. What would you say to a friend in your position? Sending support your way. -Peach311
  8. Hey LoveA7, Nice one on being clear and upfront with them. I wouldn't be surprised if they didn't fully know how their behaviour had been affecting you. Generally, people are not great when it comes to putting themselves in other people's shoes. How do you feel about it all now? -Peach311 ??
  9. Hey Randomkilljoy, I wanted to see how things are going? The beginning can be very daunting and we are here for you if you ever need a safe space to talk anything through. -Peach311
  10. Hey Lovea7, Thanks for your post. From what you've described and you feel about them it does sound like moving on is the best move for now. How we feel when we are around people says it all and your feelings are trying to get your attention that something is not ok. I would pull back from the friendship and see what happens. How would that be, is that an option for you? Sending support -Peach311
  11. Hey Madslev, Thank you for your post and honesty. I am so sorry to hear what has been going on with how your parents are treating you. You have done 100% the right thing by being honest and sharing it here. This really is a safe space for you to talk and get the support and advice you need to deal with what you are facing. If it's ok with you I am going to ask a few questions to help me better understand your situation so I can figure out, how we can get you some help. How long has it been like this for and right now does anybody else know how you have been feeling? Is there anybody at school you trust enough to talk to or a family friend? Have your parents every been violent towards you or your siblings? The biggest thing I need you to know is that even though right now it feels very lonely and scary you are not alone and it takes real courage to reach out like you have and we will do everything in our power to get you and your sibling's support. Sending so much support to you. -Peach311
  12. It really is, it leaves you feeling so lonely and hopeless. Awesome advice Gxialing21 ??
  13. You are very welcome Anna22, It's awesome having you apart of our Support Community. ?
  14. Hey Anna22, Thanks for your post. I know we have a lot of members on our Support Community in very similar situations. It is a funny one the double standard that exists for being heterosexual vs gay or bi, I personally have never heard a parent telling their child that they are too young to know they are straight. Yet sadly it is still common for the LGBTQ community to receive these kinds of reactions from family members and it makes sense why you have those fears going into to coming out. One question that can be helpful in getting people to think more broadly is asking your parents when did they know they were heterosexual? It can be surprisingly difficult for people to answer as most say they just instinctively knew from a young age. But the difference is because we live in a heteronormative society heterosexual people don't have to come out. They also don't have to worry they will be told they are too young to know. That said, it really does vary massively from situation to situation. A person's well being is always the number one priority and if there is any potential threat or harm to them if they came out then waiting would be the smartest and safest decision. For example, waiting till they are living independently from the family or not living in a country where it is illegal to be a LGBT. Would your wellbeing be at risk if you came out to your family now? Do you feel ready to come out, it sounds from your post you are but I wanted to double check. Sending support and positivity your way. -Peach311
  15. Hey Cowboycharles Welcome to Community, we have some good blogs on coming out, will post them below for you to have a look at. How are you feeling about coming out? https://www.ditchthelabel.org/top-11-tips-for-coming-out-as-lesbian-gay-or-bi/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/coming-out-to-your-parents/ Sending support and positivity -Peach311 ?'?
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