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  1. Hey, I'm glad to hear that you're feeling better. I think that if it continues to happen, it would be good to maybe think about speaking with him. He might not realise how he is making you feel, and sometimes, people just need to be told about this kind of thing. What do you think?
  2. Hey @Karabo Thank you for coming to us for help. It sounds like you've got a lot going on right now, and it's totally understandable to feel overwhelmed in your situation. It's positive that you're talking about it and asking others for help. How does it feel getting all of that off your chest? I just want to check before we go ahead, are you safe at the moment? I saw that you mentioned suicide, and although you said you're not willing to go down that path, I just wanted to double check and make sure that you're okay. Once I know you're safe, I can then help you more. I hope to hear back from you soon. Take care.
  3. Hey @Randomgirl. It's interesting that your gut is telling you that. I always like to ask about the gut feeling in these kinds of situations, because it is usually right, however, things can change. But yeah, as you said, you've already come to understand more since you started questioning, and this will only continue as time goes on How did it go seeing your crush? What happened?
  4. Hello there, So, at the beginning, your journey was rounded by society, but then as time went on, you embraced your identity. I'm wondering, how did you come to a place where you were able to accept your identity? Did you do this independently of stereotypes? What helped you?
  5. Hey there, How are you finding being in a platonic relationship with them? What was your relationship like before this?
  6. Hey there, Yeah, it sounds like the travelling is really worth it. You seem like you're really thriving there, and they sound so supportive and aware of how to work successfully with people What are you studying there?
  7. Hey @janeann Thank you for coming to us. We are here to talk with you about whatever you want to get off your chest. I know it can be scary, but a problem shared is a problem halved and we are here for you. If it makes it easier, we can speak on confidential chat. Let me know and I will tell you how to do it.
  8. Hey there, It's interesting that he brings a lot of it back to looks. I wonder, why do you think he talks a lot about looks? What could be going on in his mind?
  9. Hey there, Ah, that must be really upsetting for you to experience. How are you feeling about it all today? Also, what do you think would be a good next step?
  10. Hey there, Yeah, it does sound like you need a hug! I'm wondering, how happy would you say you were when you were together?
  11. Hey, This is a really interesting comment. I think that it can be hard to carve our an identity for ourselves that doesn't conform to a stereotype. We all have a need to fit in, and when we are 'outside of the box', it can be quite nerve-wracking to travel down this path. Can I ask, are you asking these questions for yourself, or are they more general musings? I'd love to hear more about your identity journey if you feel comfortable sharing.
  12. Hey there, I'm sorry to hear that your friend told you what they said. I think that if I were in his position, I probably wouldn't have said anything to you, because hearing that kind of thing is really hurtful. How are you feeling? I hope you're as okay as you can be. I'm wondering, why do you think he told you that? Also, when you say he is different on text as opposed to in person, can you tell me a little bit more about that, please?
  13. Hey @nininou I'm sorry to hear that he didn't respond very well; it sounds like he is quite upset at the moment, and you did the right thing by telling him how you feel, as this kind of clear communication is so important for maintaining a healthy friendship. I think this is tricky because I get the sense that you both want it to be resolved, but also that he isn't ready/clam enough yet to have that kind of conversation. I'm wondering, could it be helpful to just give it some time so you can both cool down, and then maybe speak properly about it in a month or so? What do you think?
  14. Hey there, I'm glad you felt valid after your meeting; it's so heart-warming when people just understand what we are going through and have that specialist knowledge to help support us. It sounds like they gave you loads of really useful info. Also, I totally get what you're saying about how the mind is a powerful drama queen! It's really good to be aware of when our thoughts might not be helpful, and it's good to challenge our own ways of thinking, for example, although you worry about having to deal with it yourself, you also have the doctor who will be able to help Can I ask, when you say you won't be able to move on, can you explain this a little bit more to me, please? I hope you hear from the doctor soon too!
  15. Hey Clara, Great! Would you like to let us know how it goes? Good luck! As I said, many parents become more accepting over time, and it can just take them a while to come around to the news, so it's important to be patient. Maybe you can take a look at our support guide here and let me know what you think? https://www.ditchthelabel.org/my-parents-didnt-react-well-to-me-coming-out/
  16. Monsoon


    Hey @queenyas1234 Welcome to our community. I'm one of the digital mentors here and I give advice and support to our members. We can help with a whole range of issues, including relationships, sexual identity, gender identity, mental health, bullying, and self-esteem. How's everything going for you at the moment?
  17. Hey, Yeah, it sounds like you made a really good choice there Are you living at the college? If so, how's that going? I hope you're settling in well!
  18. Hey @Randomgirl. How are you? So exciting that you're texting her - how is it going? I just want you to know that although it doesn't seem like it now, as time goes on, you will understand our sexuality more and more. It won't always be this confusing, and it will become clearer over time. However, I know that this can be really frustrating. Can I ask, do you have a gut feeling as to what your label might be?
  19. Hey Marv, Yeah, having time away from someone can really make you recognise the positive and negative parts of the relationship quite clearly. I think that the feelings might become easier as time goes on, but I do also see how the closure might be really good for you. I can imagine that you'll feel much better once you've spoken to him to try and sort it out. What do you think you'll say to him?
  20. Hey there, I'm glad to hear that you're fine. I know it might not seem like it now, but you might get to the point where your feelings have faded. I'm wondering, if they do carry on, what do you think you might do?
  21. Hey, Oh, well that's fair enough! Would you like support with anything else at the moment?
  22. Monsoon

    Bisexual chat

    Hey there, We are more than happy to chat with you about this. Would you like to tell us a little bit more about how you’re feeling at the moment?
  23. Hey, I’m glad to hear it doesn’t feel any different. It can sometimes be a bit awkward moving past a moment like this, but it sounds like it’s all going well for you two How is everything else going? Would you like support with other things?
  24. Hey Clara, How are you? I think before coming out, as Saphira said, it might be a good idea to figure out if they have homophobic views or not. Could you maybe watch an LGBTQ+ show or film with them and see what they think? If they do show those kinds of opinions, remember, they often don’t last forever, and the love that a parent has for their child is such a strong force in helping to open up their mind and become more accepting. Time and patience is key to moving forward with this kind of thing. What do you think?
  25. Hey there, How long has it been since it all happened? I guess I want to know what feels right to you as well. Do you feel like it’s okay to use your Facebook again soon?
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