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Monsoon

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  1. Hi Biscuit, I'm really sorry to hear about what you went through with your parents. I can't imagine how hard this was, and still is, for you. I've sent you an email to the address you signed up with to continue supporting you. If you haven't received this, please check your junk box. If it isn't there, please send an email to [email]support@ditchthelabel.org[/email] to let us know that you're safe. We are here for you and you will get through this. We hope to get an email back from you soon. Stay safe, - Monsoon
  2. Hi Biscuit, Thank you for reaching out to us for support. We are here for you and you are not alone. I'm really sorry to hear that you've been having such a tough time recently. Can I ask, what's happening in your life at the moment to make it fall apart? We care about your safety here at Ditch the Label and I'm wondering, are you still in crisis and do you have a plan to take your life again? We want to make sure that you're safe, so please let us know if you are or not. I know it may not seem like it now, but you can definitely get through this - you have the strength and determination. The fact that you've reached out to us for help alone shows that you want to get through this. Just incase you need it, here's some useful info: UK: The Samaritans - 116 123 (This is a 24/7 service) USA: NSPL - 1-800-273-8255 (This is a 24/7 service) This link will give you a list of all crisis lines worldwide: https://www.befrienders.org You can also call your doctor or go to any emergency department and ask for help. There's an app I can recommend called Stay Alive https://www.prevent-suicide.org.uk/f...tay-alive-app/ - it has safety plans to keep you safe and loads of helpful info. If you haven't already, do you think it would be a good idea to tell your parents/carers and get some advice from a professional? They will be able to put you forward for the best support for you right now. Also, with the self-harming, it's great that you want to stop. What are you doing to try and stop? I hope you've found something helpful. We have a support guide here with safer alternatives to self-harm. Why don't you have a read and give some of them a go? https://www.ditchthelabel.org/15-saf...-to-self-harm/ Anyway, let me know what you think of all of this. As I said, it would be really great if you could let us know whether you're safe or not. If you don't find this advice helpful, we can come up with something else together. We hope to hear from you soon, Biscuit. Take care and stay safe. You WILL get through this. - Monsoon
  3. Hey Scarlet, I'm glad you've had a read and that you can use some of the content in them. Which ones will you have a try of? Also, how are you feeling now?
  4. Hey there, Thanks for reaching out to us for support - we are here for you I'm sorry to hear that you've been having a tough time recently. We have all struggled with loneliness at one point, and it's such a difficult feeling to shake off. I think that your feelings are normal given your situation. I have felt this way too, especially when I moved to a new city after graduating. I would feel rubbish after seeing all of the posts on social media. Why don't you take some time away from social media? It sounds like it's not doing you any favours. I wonder, could you maybe reach out to your friends from work and ask them to hang out? At the beginning of relationships, people can be quite shy and often wait for the other person to make the first move... you might have to be the person to make the move! Have a look at these articles and let me know what you think: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/7-tips...ng-loneliness/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/feeling-lonely-during-lockdown-read-this/ - this article is really good Could you possibly arrange to video call with your old friends who are away for studies? I'm sure this would help to tackle your loneliness! One really important point is to try and embrace the 'me' time. I know that this feeling of loneliness is getting to you, but if you look at it differently, you will definitely start making friends, and you might not have this much time to yourself ever again. Try to use this time to work on yourself or do the things that you enjoy. I think a bit of self care could go a long way for you right now. What things do you do to help yourself relax? You might find this support guide useful: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/25-ways-practice-self-care/ Above all of this, have faith in that this will get better for you. There are so many things you can do which I've pointed you in the direction of. I think that the only way is up for you now. Hope to hear back from you soon! -Monsoon
  5. Hey Mammu, Ah, that's great that she was chill about it all. I bet you feel much better after doing it! How are you feeling? It can be a strange experience when you come out and people are fine with it. For me, I thought that people would be weird, so it took me some time to adjust which I didn't expect. Also, did you take a look at the support guides I sent about looking after yourself? It would be good to hear what you think about the tips
  6. Hi Scarlet, No need to apologise. I just wanted to make sure that you are safe, and i'm really glad to hear that you're not in crisis mode. Did you have a look at any of the support guides I linked you to in my posts? If you haven't, take a look and let me know what you think. There are plenty of ways to help yourself through this difficult time, and I know that you have the strength to move forward Hope to hear from you soon. Stay safe.
  7. Hi Scarlet. I am glad to hear that you're safe and that you don't have a plan. Did you have a chance to look at the Stay Alive app? This is really useful for people who are feeling suicidal. We really care about your safety here at DTL and we want to make sure that you get through this. With your feelings, there are many ways that you can express them without having to actually speak to people - is that what you mean when you say you can't talk about them? We have a really good article about keeping track of your mental health which you can read here: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/9-prac...mental-health/. Why don't you go through that and see if there is anything you fancy trying? A lot of people like keeping a diary because when they've written down their thoughts and feelings, it can help to give them less power. Let me know what you think. Stay strong, Scarlet. You're doing really well and I know you can get through this.
  8. Hi Scarlet, Thank you for coming to us for support - we are here to help you through this. I'm sorry to hear about what you've gone through recently; I can't imagine how hard it must be for you, but I'm glad that you're reaching out to others. You will get through this From what you've said, it sounds like you're in crisis at the moment. Can I ask if you have a plan to take your own life? I know that it may not seem like it now, but it's okay to feel like this and these feelings may pass. We are here for you and you are not alone. Just incase you need it, here's some useful info: UK: The Samaritans - 116 123 (This is a 24/7 service) USA: NSPL - 1-800-273-8255 (This is a 24/7 service) This link will give you a list of all crisis lines worldwide: https://www.befrienders.org You can also call your doctor or go to any emergency department and ask for help. There's an app I can recommend called Stay Alive https://www.prevent-suicide.org.uk/find-help-now/stay-alive-app/ - it has safety plans to keep you safe and loads of info. Would you be able to let us know if you're safe or not, please? We care about you here at DTL. Also, are you getting any help at the moment from your doctor? If not, I think it would be really helpful for you to get some support from a professional. Here are some support guides that you might find helpful atm: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/15-safer-alternatives-to-self-harm/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/9-prac...mental-health/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/25-way...ice-self-care/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/improve-mental-health/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/10-min...-to-your-life/ Do get back in touch with us soon to let us know you're safe. We can help you through this. Stay strong, Scarlet. -Monsoon
  9. Hey Mammu, Good on you for sending the message. This is such a big step and you should be proud of yourself. I completely understand how you feel. When I sent the message to my mum, I was so scared and nervous. In my mind, I knew she would be fine, but there was always that 'What if?'. If she has a bad reaction, you might find this support guide helpful: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/my-par...me-coming-out/ I hope it goes well for you. It's important to manage your stress and try and relax where possible. Have you seen our articles on self-care and stress relief? Here they are: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/99-way...ring-lockdown/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/25-ways-practice-self-care/ Hope to hear from you soon -Monsoon
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    Wattpad

    Hey Sophie, I've just had a read of your story. I like it. I think the pace is really good - well done! I do agree with Mammu too in that I want to see where it goes. I also think that Grammarly would help -Monsoon
  12. Hey Mammu, It's great to hear from you again. How have you been? Speaking from my personal experience of coming out, staying in the closet was hard and took it's toll on my mental health. This is a big step to living your true, authentic self, so go you. How did you tell your dad and closest friend? It could be that you tell your mom in the same way. I do think that the video is a nice idea as you could then talk about things afterwards as she might have questions. However, you might be nervous waiting for her to read the email as she might not do it straight away. When I came out, I told my mom first by text message as I was too nervous to do it face-to-face. This worked really well for me and then we just kind of went from there and its always been fine. Have you seen our article on coming out? You might find it helpful: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/top-11-tips-for-coming-out-as-lesbian-gay-or-bi/ I did notice that you said you 'should' come out. Can I just check, are you ready? Coming out is your choice and you should only do it when you feel ready. There's no rush - this is your journey and you get to call the shots Anyway, let me know what you think of all of this. If you don't find it useful, we can deffo figure something else out. Speak soon!
  13. Hey @ruchix Thanks for reaching out to us with this . We are here to support you. There are many other people who go through the same kind of situation as you, so please know that you're not alone. I think that's it's so hard to distinguish what's a phase and what's not as sexuality is fluid and can change over time. However, this can be quite confusing. I guess that in terms of a label, you will know more about your sexuality as time goes on, especially when you've been able to explore these feelings more. Could you possibly join a dating app and talk to women? This might help you to understand yourself more. Also, sex is not an essential requirement to know your sexuality. It definitely does help, especially if you're feeling unsure, but many people know their sexuality before they have sex. The thing is, understanding who we truly are just takes time and patience which can be frustrating, especially if you find it worrying not knowing these things. Try to enjoy the journey - it will all come to you with time. What do you think about all of this? Hope to hear back from you soon! - Monsoon
  14. Hey @Carlover455 , Sorry to hear that you're going through the same situation as @PRL13 . I know what it's like to feel left out, and tbh, it really sucks. Did you find any of the advice that I gave to PRL in my post helpful? As I said, when we feel this way, it can sometimes be that the person we want to hang out with more is actually just waiting for you to reach out and invite them to something. I guess that someone has got to go first, and it might have to be you that makes the first move. What do you reckon?
  15. Hey @Hurts , Really glad that you're feeling better today. We are always here for you whenever you need support, even if it's just for a check-in to let us know how you're doing In your first post, you were talking about how you're not feeling too great about yourself. I'm wondering, can you tell us three things about yourself that you like? This could be anything from your personality, looks, talents, etc. I think it's just nice to try to put a positive spin on the way we think about ourselves. I'm looking forward to seeing what you come up with!
  16. Hey Souzza, That's a shame that your friends just ignored your feelings and told you to forget. It's so hard to just 'forget' our feelings. Just know that your feelings are valid and they deserve to be heard and respected. I think it would be helpful for you to speak to them again if you feel comfortable? This will probably just bug you otherwise... With the volleyball, I would deffo carry on with this. Just because others have told you that you don't have the mindset for it doesn't mean you're not good. If you like it, keep doing it . With making friends, sure you know how to! You already have them . How did you make friends with those people? Maybe once restrictions have eased, you could join some clubs like sports or online gaming? Something that you enjoy. Also, could you maybe have a video call with people that you aren't quite friends with, but could be if you try to connect more? Most people know someone who they can reach out to to really become friends with. Have a think. Can I ask, why do you think you're feeling so restless atm? People can often feel restless due to a build up of stress. If you think that's true, there are loads of things you can do to reduce your stress. Here are some good articles for this: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/99-ways-to-combat-stress-during-lockdown/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/25-ways-practice-self-care/ Let me know what you think of all this. If you're not keen, we can figure something else out. Speak soon!
  17. Hey. I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way. Do you plan to take your own life? It is okay to feel like this but remember that feelings can change, and this feeling may pass. We really want to let you know that you are not alone. We support Monday - Friday, 8am - 10pm (BST) here on community and there are more options below: UK: The Samaritans - 116 123 (This is a 24/7 service) USA: NSPL - 1-800-273-8255 (This is a 24/7 service) This link will give you a list of all crisis lines worldwide: https://www.befrienders.org You can also call your doctor or go to any emergency department and ask for help. Do let us know if you're safe or not. We care about your safety here at DTL and we can help you through this. We hope to hear back from you soon. -Monsoon
  18. Hey Johanna, Thanks for reaching out to us with this. I think that at one point or another, we have all had friendships where we come away feeling drained. I guess that although your friends are going through a tough time and need support, you still have to look after yourself. Your mental health is important too. Are your friends being supported by anyone else? You should not feel like you have to carry all of this weight. I think that the distancing is a good idea and will help you to feel better. I do believe that if you felt like you could talk about yourself more and that they were interested, then you'd probably be more positive about these friendships. Have you spoken to them about how you feel when you talk about yourself? They might be interested, but they just don't realise they are coming off as being unbothered. I must say, from everything you've said, it sounds like you're a great friend. Instead of thinking about everything you didn't say, why don't you try to focus on all the good things you do for these friends? No one is perfect, and I'm sure you're doing a top-notch job. With all of this in mind, I think it's useful to consider what you get out of these friendships. Do you feel that they are serving you in a positive way? In life, people often come to a point in a friendship where they have to think about whether it's right for them or not. As I said at the beginning, your mental health is important too. You might find this article helpful: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/are-they-really-your-friend-15-signs-that-suggest-otherwise/ To finish off, it does sound like you're getting stressed about this and it might even be causing you some anxiety. What do you do to help yourself when you're stressed? You could work on trying to immerse yourself in something you enjoy/find relaxing when you start feeling worried. Here are some useful support guides too: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/99-ways-to-combat-stress-during-lockdown/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/25-ways-practice-self-care/ Let me know what you think about all of this. If you don't find it helpful, we can figure out something else. Speak soon
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    Hey Daya, This is all solid advice, so thank you for posting. It's so important to know that you are valid as people may try to tell you that they aren't right. We often give advice saying that over time, you will understand more, and it's really so true. I'm glad that you mentioned how helpful it is having a positive outlook. Sometimes in life, the best we can do in a situation is to focus on what's working well because a lot of the time, we cannot change what's bad about it. Your advice will help a lot of people. Don't forget, we are always here if you need support.
  20. Hey there! I just replied to your comment on someone else's post, so I apologise if I'm repeating myself, haha. Lockdown has been tough, hasn't it? People who were already feeling isolated are probably feeling that even more now, but I think it's pretty normal. Have you tried reaching out to any friends/acquaintances? We have a great support article for people who are feeling lonely atm: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/feeling-lonely-during-lockdown-read-this/ I hope our members get in touch as it would be really nice for you to connect with some people here. Speak soon
  21. @anna12345 Hey! That's nice of you to offer a chat. How come you've been feeling disconnected from your peers? I think a lot of people feel this way at some point, so you're not alone. We can support you if you like. Let me know
  22. Monsoon

    Update?

    Hey Daya, It's great to see a post in the brag box. We are happy to hear that your girlfriend is making you happy. Do you have any advice to our members as to how you coped so well? It would be great to hear Speak soon, - Monsoon
  23. Hey @Hurts Thank you for coming to us - we are here to support you through this I'm really sorry to hear that you've been suffering recently. Can I ask, are you feeling suicidal at the moment? As Daya said, you are valid and your experiences matter. We are all here for you. I think it's great that you were happy for two months. I wonder what made you feel this way? You might have been doing something specifically that helped you to feel better and it would be really good to pin that down and do more of it. When people go through mental health difficulties, it is perfectly normal to go back and forth between feeling down with it to then feeling on top of the world. The truth is, mental health is not a straight path. There are many ups and downs, and this is expected for everyone. However, I can see why this might be frustrating for people. Have you seen our support guides on improving mental health and self-image/self-esteem? You might find them useful: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/improve-mental-health/ 99 WAYS TO COMBAT STRESS DURING LOCKDOWN https://www.ditchthelabel.org/25-ways-practice-self-care/ https://www.ditchthelabel.org/overco...w-self-esteem/ Let me know what you think of all this. As I said, it will be really helpful to know why you were feeling good for two months. Also, what other things do you think might help you to move forward right now? I'm sure there are plenty of things you know about that help you. I'm interested to see what you think. Hope to hear back from you soon! You're doing really well and it's great that you're asking others for help. Hang in there -Monsoon
  24. Hey GY, Wow - it sounds like you have had quite the year! I'm glad that your girlfriend has been accepting and understanding. Can I ask, are you confused about your sexuality? If so, this is perfectly normal and most people go through a phase where they question. I think that if you are confused about this, a good way to figure things out would be to do some exploring. What do you think?
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