Wow. What I think is that I wish we'd known about Ditch the Label three years ago when this whole thing started. I'll go through everything you've sent when I can give it my full attention. At first glance it looks like it may be very useful. I will also encourage my daughter to look at if for herself and perhaps be in touch with you with her own issues on her own terms.
It's been a pretty stressful time for us - obviously for her in particular - and I'm aware that we haven't always known what to do for the best. It's also been clear that although her school has been concerned for her mental health, they haven't understood the part that bullying has played in it because they haven't sufficiently understood (my view at any rate) that relational aggression is every bit as toxic as direct bullying and a hell of a lot harder to see.
At the worst of it my daughter was out of school for six months with a stress breakdown. When she went back she - and we, at home and at school - thought it would have stopped. But it hadn't. The practical problem she is grappling with now is how to connect with the people she knows could be friends if they could see past her reputation, and your suggestions on how to cope with social anxiety might be really helpful there. The trick is persuading her that if she wants to stay at that school - and I do understand why she does - she will somehow have to figure out how to reach out to a potential new circle of friends and wriggle out from the reach of a circle who have made her life hell.